If you believe the negative self-talk you have with yourself every day then you need to read this post.
John Maxwell said “If you place a small value on yourself, rest assured the world will not raise your price.”
How true that is. Your self – esteem is the single most significant key to your behavior. If you allow a low self – esteem in your life, you put a ceiling on your potential.
In the past, I have been very good at sabotaging an idea or goal just by telling myself I wasn’t good enough or maybe someone else could do it better. I was wrong in thinking this way and you would be too if you have similar thoughts. You and I were born with seeds of greatness. To be incredible. Too often, these seeds are trampled and crushed instead of being cultivated and nurtured. Many times by our own thoughts and actions.
This is something that affects many people and it is important you know you aren’t alone. My friend Ryan Walter in his book calls it getting “Off the Bench and Into the Game”. Others refer to ‘your inner game’. It is very much the game we play in our mind. A game we must win to be successful and correcting a poor self esteem is of paramount importance.
Key Parts to Correcting a Poor Self Esteem
First, there are several ways we sabotage our life;
- Negative Self Talk
- What you say about yourself you tend to believe.
- You compare yourself to someone else
- You have a set of beliefs that limit what you will do and how successful you will be
Next there are steps towards corrective action;
- Be Aware of what you are doing. Listen to what you are saying to yourself. Make a list of everything you do well and enjoy doing.
- Stop talking badly about yourself. Take the list you made in step one and craft positive affirmation statements and post them where you can see them
- Stop comparing yourself to others. You are unique and you will never be anyone else so stop trying. Be yourself and work at being the best you can be.
- Move beyond your limiting beliefs. Jack Canfield offered a solution to overcoming your self-limiting beliefs in his book “The Success Principles” by introducing these steps;
- Identify a limiting belief that you want to change
- Determine how that belief limits you
- Decide how you want to act, feel, or think.
- Create a “Turn Around” Statement that affirms or gives you the permission to act, feel or think differently.
- Repeat the above regularly and practice this every day.
- Add value to others. A poor self-image causes me to become self-protective and selfish. Doing something for someone else will lift you up.
- Do the right thing even if it is the hard thing. Doing what is right will give you a strong sense of satisfaction and builds your character.
Your self-image is key to the level of success to which you aspire. Whether you are currently a 4 or 7 on a scale of one to ten. Or even a 1. There always seems to be room for improvement. We are able to overcome the damage done in our life and move on to a better place.
I am not saying this will be an easy journey for you. To the contrary, it may be difficult. You may be fortunate and find yourself able to implement the strategies necessary. That is a good thing. Others, may find it beneficial to enlist a coach or mentor to develop your plan. Even great athletes see the need for outside help to keep them at the peak of their game. For some, your self-image may have been impacted by others. You doubt this would ever work for you. You may need to seek out other types of help.
My wish is for us all to recognize our tremendous value and to begin to function in the very special gifts we have been granted. If I could be of help to you I would be happy to hear from you.
Question: How much time do you spend improving yourself? A good first step for us all is to listen to the conversation we have with ourselves and determine if it is something we should be listening to. If you have an idea or process you use perhaps you could share on Facebook or in the comments.